Hair loss

A few here and a few there...that's how it started. The drain would clog with my hair and we'd just use a pair of old tweezers and clear it out. I'd fill my brushes with hair faster than usual but it was never something I really paid attention too so I didn't really know if my hair was coming out more. I'd run my hands through my hair and have a bunch of hairs in my hand but I'd figure it was because I didn't brush it yet. Until Sunday... I had a shower and twisted my hair up into a clip while it was wet. I did some other things to get ready then went back to my hair. I considered leaving it up in the clip so I took my hand mirror to see what it looked like from the back and I saw for sure that I had many more clear patches. I asked my mom later that day if she thought my hair was thinner. And yes she did. Hubby, Mom, Dad and I discussed it.
So the question of why is not a hard one because 2 of the things I am being "checked out for" have symptomatic hair loss...PCOS and low thyroid.
The question is what to do, Dad and hubby agreed that getting a shorter cut might help. Hubby said having less to brush might cause less to come out.
I've googled it and found some advice that makes sense to me. Be gentle (like I always have been), avoid tight or hair dos that pull (I have trouble with this because I like up dos), expect density to return with treatment after the hormonal problems are treated but the loss will continue until the hormones are balanced. Hair styles that are suggested around the web are having a length between your shoulders and your ears with layering to keep the hair light and up lifted.
My fear about getting my hair cut is a loss of my sense of femininity. I've had my hair short before and liked it but I'm a little frozen because the loss of density in my hair plus having it short might be too much. I feel like the length is feminine and I want to keep that but I also understand that cutting it will most likely preserve the density better which is important too and more so for the long run.
Well...I think writing this blog helped me decide what to do...I will look for a shorter style I like and consult with a stylist.
TTFN